Disclosing Your HIV Status

One of the biggest concerns of HIV-infected people is confidentiality. For many, the worst thing that can happen is having others find out about their HIV infection. That may be the biggest reason HIV disclosure is so difficult. When dating and beginning new relationships, disclosing your HIV status is wise, and in some states it's the law. The prospect of telling someone you just met that you have HIV is a very daunting task. People living with HIV find it hard to disclose their status because:

• Their HIV diagnosis will no longer be a secret.
• They fear the rejection that may come with disclosing their HIV status to a prospective partner.
• They fear the judgments and stereotypes that come along with an HIV diagnosis.
• They are afraid they will lose their only shot at a relationship.

HIV disclosure can be easier if you arm yourself with the right tools and know the right things to say at the right time. These guidelines will help when it’s time for disclosure.

• Explain to your potential partner that you care enough and trust enough to disclose your status.
• Assure him or her that it is possible to have a healthy, fulfilling relationship despite HIV.
• Always discuss safer sex and the importance of having safer sex each and every time.
• Explain that with the proper precautions, a sexual relationship is both possible and enjoyable.